2009年4月19日 星期日

原諒

有冇睇過歲月的童話?我地經歷既遺憾痛楚失望,令我地永遠留在果刻,心裏面一直住左果個無助弱小既小朋友。

我們都是一樣的。

都試過幼小無助,保護唔到自己,亦保護唔到自己最愛既人,比人蝦,比人凌辱。

都試過黑心殘酷忿怒貪婪,犯左自己到今時今日仍然都耿耿於懷既錯誤,傷害左人,後悔莫及,慚愧內疚。

過去既已經過去左,有d仲過左好耐好耐;科幻小說係幻想來的,無辦去再回到未來的。

我地其實分分秒秒在改變,依家既我同以前既我已經唔同。

佛說人世間既一切痛苦緣於無明,而忿怒其實係一種暫時瘋狂。咁,你無理由仲嬲一個無知又癲左既人姐.......原諒自己吧,原諒果個過去的我。

發脾氣係對人的忿怒,內疚其實係嬲自己,兩樣野本質都係一樣的,都係,嗔。

其實,「我」心底之中仲有光明,仲有向善的願望的。

而其實,人人都承受住一模一樣的痛苦。

我們都是一樣的。

當你連自己都可以原諒時,就可以原諒全世界。


Ven. Ayya Khema, Loving-kindness Meditation - Forgiveness

Have forgiveness in your heart for anything you think you've done wrong . Forgive yourself for all the past omissions and commissions. They are long gone. Understand that you were a different person and this one is forgiving that one that you were. Feel that forgiveness filling you and enveloping you with a sense of warmth and ease.

Think of your parents. Forgive them for anything you have ever blamed them for. Understand that they too are different now. Let this forgiveness fill them, surround them, knowing in your heart that this is your most wonderful way of togetherness.
Think of your nearest and dearest people . Forgive them for anything that you think they have done wrong or are doing wrong at this time. Fill them with your forgiveness. Let them feel that you accept them. Let that forgiveness fill them. Realizing that this is your expression of love.

Now think of your friends. Forgive them for anything you have disliked about them. Let your forgiveness reach out to them, so that they can be filled with it, embraced by it.

Think of the people you know, whoever they might be, and forgive them all for whatever it is that you have blamed them for, that you have judged them for, that you have disliked. Let your forgiveness fill their hearts, surround them, envelope them, be your expression of love for them.

Now think of any special person whom you really need to forgive. Towards whom you still have resentment, rejection, dislike. Forgive him or her fully. Remember that everyone has dukkha. Let this forgiveness come from your heart. Reach out to that person, complete and total.

Think of any one person, or any situation, or any group of people whom you are condemning, blaming, disliking. Forgive them, completely. Let your forgiveness be your expression of unconditional love. They may not do the right things. Human beings have dukkha. And your heart needs the forgiveness in order to have purity of love.

Have a look again and see whether there's anyone or anything, any where in the world, towards whom you have blame or condemnation. And forgive the people or the person, so that there is no separation your heart.

Now put your attention back on yourself. And recognize the goodness in you. The effort you are making. Feel the warmth and ease that comes from forgiveness."

May all beings have forgiveness in their hearts!

(好多謝你呀!)

12 則留言:

Morca 提到...

我同妹子都好喜歡看歲月的童話...

Barry 提到...

師姐, 如果多d人明白呢個道理就好!

seikomatic 提到...

師妹,

俺覺得原諒自已事實上好多人都做得到,所謂【阿Q精神】及【精神自癒能力】。

小部份人可能永遠背負著過去的懊惱跟內疚,無論是受人的傷害還是自已傷害了別人,但俺相信發慈悲心才是原諒別人的基本。

要原諒的是當一個人對俺說:【你真系蠢過隻豬!】【你班佛教徒只系拜偶像!】【樣衰就怪你阿媽!】俺原諒自已都沒有用,俺要用無明去看通對方的無知,包括不知道豬比狗聰明,俺又比簷蛇聰明;不拜偶像的才是佛教徒;阿媽只會同阿爸有關系等【真理】。

但幹嘛要原諒別人呢?因為今日受人傷害,就是昨日傷害別人的果,自作自受。

數怪 提到...

其實有d野,尤其時係發生在兒時的不快事,平時係唔會記,不過有潛意識的影響力,卻是深遠到難以估計的。

Samsara 提到...

Morca姐姐:歲月的童話同小王子一樣,只有大人先至睇得明。

師兄:言知之易,行之難。我可以剛寫完,就又來爆呢。

大師:係呀,依段本身就係慈心禪來嫁。而且有樣好得意既就係,無論具體內容如何,所以既慈心禪既次序都係首先將慈心比左自己先,之後先至比其他人。

數怪哥哥:Ajahn Brahm有教過,無論係自己做錯事又好,被人錯待又好,都可以用"AFL Code:
Admit
Forgive
Learn

我諗可以諗返起最初既原因都已經係好重要既第一步,好多人根本唔記得自己點解會有乜種complex的。

咁,人人都有小時候,都會有弱小既時候嘛。唔好要求自己連細個時都完美啦,對自己好d啦。

Derek Greyhound 提到...

Samsara 師妺,

It's easy to forgive, but hard to forget.

凡事三思而後行即可.人生原本充滿遺憾,沒有人沒犯過錯,只要緊記教訓,作為日後鑑戒,已經足夠.活得好每一天,才是重要.

近況好嗎?祝生活愉快.

Samsara 提到...

大力哥哥:

Forget...我諗,唔需要忘記的。

比如六四咁:
A: 首先大家要承認發生過依件事,政府要公開所有內幕同真相,等所以民眾有機會搞清楚到底發生什麼事;
F: 在承認事實的基礎上面,原諒當時既各個人的各種錯誤;
L: 在錯誤中,真正學習,唔好再犯同樣錯誤

依家有人bullshit什麼要和解,真係十分別有用心。中共根本唔承認佢當年殺人放火,血洗天安門,連面對歷史事實都無,和乜野先。AFL係次第分明的,無得跳step。

我除左誤交損友,沾染左好short既傻氣,仲比魔鬼睇中,覺得折騰我非常好玩之外,其他都好好呀!

你呢?仲有有再跑呀?身心健康好重要,同埋跑步除左鍛鍊肌肉之外,仲磨練意志,強壯心力,同抗憂鬱添呀!

seikomatic 提到...

次序真系好重要:

如果話用大慈悲原諒晒所有不是,咁不是還是不是,昨日的不是明日還會有不是。

所以先企定(A),知無我無常無明,從知到認;
從執而到捨(F) ;去執即離苦;
從捨到用(L) ,用捨法去認知執,用捨法去捨執。

Derek Greyhound 提到...

不願記起 未敢忘記

是我們那一輩二十年前刻骨銘心的一段經歷.在大時代之下,人其實覺得很無助,卻不敢忘記那時的一切.所有掀動百萬人人心的大遊行,和五一九八號風球維園集會等,仍歷歷在目.

Samsara 提到...

大師:我在度諗,原諒係乜野呢?其實,原諒人地係放過自己,原諒自己就更加係放過自己啦。前面仲有大把路大把機會,做乜要將自己永遠freeze在某一個唔開心的一刻?

大力哥哥:二十年lu,真係一眨眼的事。二十年之間的改變真係好大呀,我當年六月三日晚上全家人都一直睇新聞的,有個亞視記者係一直留守天安門報導的,一邊講一邊喘氣...

我諗,只要做齊AFL,係可以既原諒又記得的,其實,為左後代都學到依個教訓,我地更加要記得清清楚楚的。

但係,依家連承認都未有,咁原諒乜先?

莫非,要死者家屬原諒「那發生在八九年春夏之交的風波」嗎?

承認自己犯錯,先至係勇氣同力量既表現。

On Dog 提到...

誤交損友...

T.T

Samsara 提到...

haha!! 你依家先見到既...你係咪唔認short先?

吓?