2007年8月29日 星期三

快樂多角度(9)- 完美

有聰明人講:

『人生不要太圓滿,有個缺口讓福氣流向別人是很美的一件事。

在一個講究包裝的社會裡,我們常禁不住羨慕別人光鮮華麗的外表,而對自己的欠缺耿耿於懷。 

但就我多年觀察,我發現沒有一個人的生命是完整無缺的,每個人多少少了一些東西。

有人夫妻恩愛、月入數十萬,卻是有嚴重的不孕症; 有人才貌雙全、能幹多財;情字路上卻是坎坷難行;有人家財萬貫,卻是子孫不孝;有人看似好命,卻是一輩子腦袋空空。
 
每個人的生命,都被上蒼劃上了一道缺口,你不想要它,它卻如影隨形。

以前我也痛恨我人生中的缺失,但現在我卻能寬心接受,因為我體認到生命中的缺口,彷若我們背上的一根刺,時時提醒我們謙卑,要懂得憐恤。

若沒有苦難,我們會驕傲,沒有滄桑,我們不會以同理心去安慰不幸的人。

你不需擁有全部的東西,若你樣樣俱全,別人吃什麼呢?

要知道每個生命都有欠缺,我不會再去與人作無謂的比較了,反而更能珍惜自己所擁有的一切。

所以,不要再去羨慕別人如何如何,好好數算上天給你的恩典,你會發現你所擁有的絕對比沒有的要多出許多。

而缺失的那一部分,雖不可愛,卻也是你生命的一部分,接受它且善待它,你的人生會快樂豁達許多。

如果你是一個蚌,你願意受盡一生痛苦而凝結一粒珍珠,還是不要珍珠,寧願舒舒服服的活著?

如果你是一隻老鼠,你突然發覺你已被關進捕鼠籠,而你前面有一塊香噴噴的蛋糕,這時,你究竟是吃還是不吃呢? 

早期的撲滿都是陶器,一旦存滿了錢,就要被人敲碎;如果有這麼一隻撲滿,一直沒有錢投進來,一直瓦全到今天,他就成了貴重的古董,你願意做哪一種撲滿?

你每想到一次就記下你的答案,直到有一天你的答案不再變動...那就是你成熟了!』

有關閱讀:The Missing Piece

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The Original Text:

In this society that emphasizes on the packaging, we would sometimes inevitably envy other people’s good looks, and lament about our own imperfection.

But in my years of experience, I have discovered that there’s no one life that is perfect, everyone has a lack of something.

Some couples are very loving, monthly salary of 10K+, but they could have problems bearing child.

Some people have the looks and talent, but could have a rough time in relationships.

Some people have lots of money, but they don’t have filial children.

Some people look to have a good life, but their brain could be empty all their life.

Everyone’s life has been designed with imperfections,you may not want it, but it will follow you.

I used to hate my imperfection, but now I have learnt to accept it with open arms. Because I understand that the flaw in life is like a spike on our backs, reminding us to be humble and to emphatise with others.

If there are no hardships, we will be complacent. If there is no depression, we cannot emphatise and console those who are less fortunate.

I also believe that life cannot be too perfect, having a crack to let happiness flow to others is a beautiful thing.

You don’t have to have everything. If you have everything, what’s left for the others?

Also recognise that life has flaws,that I will not compare myself with others, instead cherish what you already have.

So, don’t go around envying others, count the blessings that Heaven has bestowed upon you, you will find that there are more things that you have than things that you don’t have

And what you do not have, although not lovable, is very much part of your life,
accept and appreciate it, and your life will be much happier.

If you are a clam, do you want to bear all the pains to produce a pearl...or you do not want the pearl and choose to live comfortably?!

If you are a mouse, you suddenly find yourself captured in a rat trap and in front of you is a piece of delicious cake, do you eat the cake or not?!

Early piggy banks are made of clay, once it is filled, it has to be broken…

If there is such a piggy bank, no money has been put into it, until today and it has become a very priceless antique…Which piggy bank do you wish to be?!

Everytime you think of it, note down your answers…

Until a day when your answers does not change…

Then you are mature!

13 則留言:

seikomatic 提到...

唔師妹...俺唔覺得呢個系缺憾,反而覺得系【公平】或者【等價交易】。

俺有個 fan 就系千萬家財而得左個憂鬱症。日日游埠食魚翅都提唔起勁。

所以同俺媽講,+x 的唔開心肯定比你既更痛苦。

on dog 提到...

1. 不要珍珠--->個人取向...

2. 吃! why not?

3. 做很快被人敲碎的一個, 無所事事, 豈不白活, 做了古董又如何?

野孩子 提到...

五千年前和五千年後也都一樣:


人皆尋夢 夢裡不分西東
片刻春風得意 未知景物矇矓

人生如夢 夢裡輾轉吉凶
尋樂不堪苦困 未識苦與樂同

醉翁他朝醒覺 是否跨鳳成龍?

Forever 提到...

呵~, 在試緊在痛苦中尋找快樂, 試緊什麼叫ok地生活~.

ak 提到...

Samsara姐姐,

依篇...AK咁睇...人,未必係要去追求完美...,只係,一定會,亦都要有所追求,係過程之中,認清Give and Take...之後actively,經過思考之後咁去make一個choice,咁大致上,就可以無悔的了...

on dog 提到...

無悔...咁就去到人生既意義個TOPIC...

POSITIVE咁睇, 意義在於可否活得感動!

NEGATIVE咁睇, 大家可否活得無悔!
(若到最後, 能無悔一生, 是否就一樣等同"活得有意義"呢?)

Samsara 提到...

大師:等價交易,都好似係,有得就有失,每人都總有d野係missing既。

On Dog哥哥:你好勁呀,咁快答到既?我只答到第二題咋,我個答案仲成日變添呀,我都真係(心智)未成熟囉好明顯。

無常哥哥:真係,人生如夢呀!

永恆哥哥:係痛苦中找尋快樂咁痛苦???有冇得只有快樂呢?

AK哥哥:人會變呢閉在,我今日既情況係我以前幾conscious既選擇,當時我以為咁樣我就會開心,結果...

C.M. 提到...

香水姐姐:

我淨係想講,我好掛住你呀!

Samsara 提到...

CM哥哥:你把口真甜,我今日d野急到依家我有d頭暈呀!

C.M. 提到...

放心,送你一支白花油。

(我呀,爆曬瘡呀,點算?)

匿名 提到...

Like this article. Cheer!
I get in here from 70/F website......

Holly Cow

Samsara 提到...

Hi Holly Cow, glad that you like it! I read this article for more than 30 times myself..... and still not quite sure of my answer.

匿名 提到...

Hi Samsara,
Like your blog, Thanks for your sharing :)

Just want to let you know, here have a book, maybe you would like it...陳致元 想念

Angel :)